Ego v. Inner Self: Who's in the Driver Seat of Your Life?

The ego is our individualized identity and all the personalities, roles, and abilities we build to create that our unique identity. It is made up of our personal stories, fears, desires, emotions, thoughts, and characteristics that form our outer persona. Although this persona is a social and psychological necessity that develops from earliest childhood throughout adulthood, most of us become completely identified with this image of ourselves and forget that within us lies the higher Self that is pure intuition, spirit, and love.

Identifying the Ego

At the heart of our being, we are all beautiful and unique expressions of the Divine. Our inner-self remains untouched by the variances and impermanence of life. The trouble is we become convinced that the whole of who we are is this exterior persona. The fact is this persona is just the vehicle for the highest Self and, like a car left running without its driver, the ego can spin out of control in a multitude of destructive ways.

In order to cultivate more trust in the Divine Self rather than our own ego is to put the vehicle (physical self) back in service to its driver (inner self). By enabling the greater inner Self to take over the management of our lives, we regain the innate peace, balance, and ease that is our natural state of Being. In order to oust the ego from the driver’s seat, we need compassionate awareness, self-forgiveness, and strength of will.

What Your Life's Like With the Ego in Control


In order to do this effectively, we must be able to recognize who is in the driver’s seat of our life at any given moment. It is fairly easy to identify the ego, as it is usually the one running the show. It acts something like this:


  • Comparing, judging, criticizing yourself or others   

  • Projecting, reacting, manipulating, instilling guilt   

  • Over-analyzing, worrying, self-doubting   

  • Feeling defensive and fearful   

  • Feeling separate and alone   

  • Chasing endless desires   

What Your Life's Like With the Inner Self in Control

  • Accepting the changes of life with ease   

  • Trusting core values even in difficult situations   

  • Not attaching to any particular outcome   

  • Assessing action based on whether it fosters peace and harmony   

  • Witnessing desires without mindlessly following them   

  • Expressing unselfish love   

  • Recognizing the inter-connectedness of all life