One of the most beautiful qualities of being human is our innate ability to love people, places, and things so deeply. However, if we are not consciously practicing embracing with open arms, then our love is no longer liberating us, it is in fact, binding us. Thus, loving in a way that makes us dependent upon or bound to that love, can potentially manifest in suffering. Love is a beautiful and inevitable part of the human experience, but it is our choice as to whether or not we practice loving in a way that makes you and what you love, feel free.
2 simple ways to practice a love that liberates:
- To love is to give space: When we give or receive love, we experience a rush of adrenaline, joy, and fulfillment; potentially encouraging us to seek the recreation of that experience. However, not only does this encourage the development of attachment, but expectation as well. When we hold on to an experience with a tight grip, tension and fear can develop; a fear that if we don't hold on tightly, then feelings will change. But when we offer ourselves as well as others the necessary space, our appreciation for the experience deepens tremendously. This requires the skill of trust; having faith that when you hold on with an open hand, love will always return to fill you up once more.
- Ego says you're mine, love says you're free to be: When we become attached, it is natural for the ego to lead us into believing that what or who we love, belongs to us. Because of this, when who or what we love changes, we can experience resistance or resentment. However, when we say to ourselves, "what I love is not mine, what I love is free to be", we are embracing the inevitable change that occurs outside of ourselves. When we liberate others to be ever-changing and growing, that love will not only deepen but ultimately, liberate.