Over time, it may become such a deeply ingrained pattern to revert to tell yourself unhelpful messages in the form of negative self-talk or downward spirals of doubt. Or, you hear messages from others, internalize them, and repeat them to yourself. To activate your inner life and hone your awareness of your own feelings and values, you need to detach yourself from these kinds of messages, the kind that can end up dictating the patterns of your days. It takes a series of actions to break this repetitious self-imposed rhetoric: first, being aware of the thing you’re doing repeatedly; second, noticing how it makes you feel; and third, choosing a new pattern that could produce a different emotional effect. Limiting your inner noise by unfriending the following two voices from your self-talk is an essential step towards empowering yourself. How to Disempower Negative Self-Talk: One method is to replace the ‘negative’ thought with a thought or word that you imagine to be more ‘positive.’ Instead of these tried-but-not-necessarily-true methods, observe your self-talk as you would watch any other thought in mindfulness meditation. By choosing this internal action, you will deprioritize certain messages that you’re sending yourself that you know are not constructive. Instead of reinforcing the voice telling you that you are not good enough by virtue of its playing on repeat, will lose her power when you simply notice it’s on autopilot and not speaking the truth. Another method is to engage in any activity that encourages you to be gentler with yourself. Take 10 minutes to sit by yourself and breathe, one hand on your heart, the other on your belly. Or, look in the mirror and in your mind or aloud, state positive affirmations. No matter what internal action you may take, remember to always practice patience and compassion with yourself as you unlearn and disempower the habitual, negative self-talk.
As a human, it is inevitable to miscommunicate with yourself on a regular basis.