In Buddhist and Yogic studies, the concept of non-attachment is a popular one. It is understood that deep attachment to people, outcomes, and objects can cause suffering—as when these things leave, we may experience grief, sorrow, regret, or resentment. So, a common thread woven into the fabric of living a more mindful life is to practice the art of non-attachment. But what about also practicing attachment as well?
The practice of non-attachment can absolutely help us gracefully navigate life’s inevitable ebb and flow of shifts and changes. It is wise to set an intention, set it into practice, and allow it to organically manifest without worrying about the outcome. It’s a beautiful way to become a conduit for which life’s experiences can freely flow in and out.
Conversely, the lack of attachment could also mean that we never take the risk of fully connecting—or of allowing ourselves to be receptive and vulnerable enough to allow—and with that, we may miss out on a depth and ballast that our hearts may require in order to feel fulfilled, seen, loved, and held. Practicing attachment doesn’t mean that you’re also not practicing being vulnerable, open, and receptive to those people, outcomes, and objects.
So, perhaps it is best to make peace with both non-attachments and attachments—and even more so, reveling in and celebrating the act of letting go as well as gently holding. In doing so, there’s an element of acceptance for what you consciously choose to have and not have in your life without the fear of loss or rejection.
Maybe accepting exactly what our unique requirements allows us to embrace both attachment and non-attachment, without taking it too far as to deprive ourselves of what we truly fills our hearts with life.